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There are two sides to everything.  “Wanting” is no exception.  Unfortunately, most of us focus on the lack/fear side of “wanting” and then we wonder why we don’t attract and manifest the things we most want.

For example, we want something like a new car or to be able to make money doing what we love.  Over time, as the thing we want continues to elude us, our desire and “wantingness” of it continues to rise.  We begin to really yearn for the things we want and the feelings get stronger and stronger.  As we continue to want them, it seems to feel like they get further and further away and we begin to resign to feelings of frustration, resentment, apathy or even depression.  Eventually, we can’t stand the pain any more so we talk ourselves out of wanting that thing just to be able to cope with life.

There’s a better way.

We need to re-define some vocabulary.  When you think of the word “want” as used in the sentence “I want this” or “I want that”, what kind of feelings does that conjure up in you?  Does it conjure up positive feelings of having what you want, or does it conjure up feelings of “wantingness”?  Meaning, if you say “I want that car” are you feeling like you’re making a statement of something that you want but don’t have yet?  If so, that is the “wantingness” side of the word “want”.  What you need to get to is the other side which is more of the “havingness” side of the word “want”.

Let me explain.

A few years back, my wife and I went shopping for some new couches.  It took us a long time to find something that we liked.  We wanted a nice set of leather couches that were comfortable.  We looked around in a whole bunch of stores and had a tough time finding the right set for us.  Then one day we walked into a store and found the perfect set for us, and we bought them.  It’s an awesome set that I love.  The couch and the two seats we got are so comfortable I can easily fall asleep on the couch and when I wake up it’s just like sleeping in a bed.  When I’m physically exhausted, the seats are so comfortable I feel like I just sink in.  In short, I love the set of couches we found.

Now, here’s the thing.  I already have those couches in my house.  But do I still want them?  Of course!  If I didn’t want them, I’d sell them or get rid of them or something.  So I still want them, even though I have them right?  When you have something that you wanted, in most cases you still want the thing you have because if you didn’t still want it you’d get rid of it right?

So, if you look around your life and you see all the things you have, (health, car, house, relationships, sunshine etc.), that you want in your life right now you will find that the things that you WANT and HAVE are in the majority.  There are probably thousands if not hundreds of thousands of things that you want and have in your life.  This feeling of wanting and having I call the “havingness” side of WANT.  This feeling is the vibe you want to send out about the things you don’t have yet in order to attract them.

You can say, well how can I have this feeling of “Havingness” about something that I don’t physically have in my hands yet?  That would be impossible!  No it’s not.  It’s just a choice on your part.

Pretend that there is a new movie coming out on DVD two weeks from now.  When the movie comes out you’re going to go to the store and buy it and watch it.  You want that movie and you can have a feeling of “havingness” about it, even though you don’t yet have it.  Why?  Because, you know that once it comes out you’ll go to the store and buy it and then you’ll have it.  In other words, your faith of having it is so strong that even though you’re not holding it physically in your hands at the moment, you already know for sure that you’ll have it.

That is the feeling of want you really want to tap into.  That knowing side of the want feeling that attracts what you want into your life, not the other side of the want feeling that repels everything that you want.  Wanting something, while at the same time deep down knowing that you will never have it is precisely the vibration that the universe responds to when it doesn’t deliver what you want.  You need to be able to tap into the other, positive side of wanting….which as I described above, I like to call “Havingness”.

What’s the best way to do this?

Well, start by looking around you and seeing everything you already have.  Then ask yourself if you want that thing.  Look at anything that’s in your life right now that you enjoy and want, and realize that just because you already have it, it doesn’t mean you don’t want those things anymore.  Realize that wanting something and having it is a feeling.  THAT feeling is what you want to get to with the things that you want and not yet have in your physical reality in order to attract them very quickly into your life.

Want things, and have that expectation of having feeling that you’ll get them.  That’s the real secret.  The secret is not wanting something and focusing on how you don’t have it yet and trying to desperately make yourself feel like crap for not having it, until the pain gets so bad that you take action to get it.  That is not a productive way to live your life.  Want something, expect that you’ll have it, and take action from an inspired point of view of knowing that you’ll get it.  It might not be this instant, it might not be today, it might be a while yet before you get it, but it doesn’t matter.  The fastest way to get what you want, is to have this feeling of “havingness” which comes from having the faith that you will have it.

Now, ask yourself this.  Do you want to make money doing what you love?  Yes?

Which version of the want feeling are you experiencing when you say that?  Is it the “wantingness” side where you desperately want to make money doing what you love, but deep down you’ve already resigned to believing that you’ll never have it?  Or is the the “havingness” side where you damn well know for sure that you will make money doing what you love even if that isn’t your present reality temporarily in this moment?

This disctincion is very important.  Don’t dismiss it as trivial.